I just went and saw Women with my mil and sil. I really liked it. There are no men whatsoever shown in the movie (they are talked about). The movie has me really thinking. It is about a woman who finds out that her husband was cheating on her.
I used to always say (before kids) that if my husband ever cheated on me, I was out the door. No way was I going to stick around with a person who does that. But now that I have two kids, I really wonder what I would do. Being a SAHM makes it more difficult for me. I mean, I have no income of my own. So what would I do if I had to raise my kids on my own? Sure I have my teaching certificate, but in Michigan that doesn’t mean a whole heck of a lot since there are no jobs. So it makes me wonder if I would really walk out the door or if I would try and make it work.
However, how in the world could a person make it work? You have nothing if you don’t have trust. I don’t see how you would be able to get that trust back once your spouse cheats on you with another person. But then again, I can’t really put myself in that person’s shoes, since I haven’t been there. But boy did my heart hurt for that woman. She was so humiliated, and rightly so.
Definitely go and see that movie. It really is a good movie and not only that, but it is a little bit empowering as well.
My sister was a stay at home mom until she got divorced (he didn’t cheat on her but long story there so I wont waste your time). After the divorce she moved home with Mom until she was able to get a job. Now she is working full time. It is very hard though. I thought about this before I was married. For me it comes down to my daughter. Would I be putting aside my own feelings so that she can have a normal life with two parents in the same household or would that actually make things worse because resent towards the husband? Ah well, I guess I will just pray I never have to make that choice and to be honest I don’t think I ever will have to.
I should clarify – many women work full time with kids – it’s not hard for my sister because she is working full time its a combination of that, two boys, and no child support or help. That is why its very hard.
You threw me for a loop for a minute. My sil that I went to the movies with is named Amanda Leigh.
Ooh – this was our movie pick of the month and we’re going to go see it tomorrow night – can’t wait!
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