Today I took my son to school. He goes to afternoon Kindergarten. I was standing there waiting for the kids to line up and the teacher to let them when I saw a kid from my son’s class smack my son across the face. I was floored. What pissed me off more was the fact that the woman that was outside watching the kids that are in Kindergarten Crew (a babysitting service for working parents) didn’t do a damn thing about it! She even told me “oh they’re playing a game”. Um…last time I checked, hitting of ANY kind is not allowed at school. Game or no game.
Of course I wasn’t going to let it end like that. I marched right over, my son looked at me like he was about to cry, gave me a hug as I looked at the little brat hitter and said “you don’t hit. I don’t care if you think it is a game or not. I had better not see you hit Zachary again”. I was floored. Who does that? Who watches a kid hit and look right at the parent of the kid who was hit and tell them “they are just playing a game”? Maybe I should have smacked her to see how she liked the game.
I worked in the class today and afterward, I let his teacher know what happened. Unfortunately I did not know all that happened. Apparently right before I turned around to see where my son was at, that little brat punched him in the stomach. And as if that wasn’t enough, Zachary said that during circle time, the little brat kept elbowing him when the teacher turned back to look at the board.
This crap pisses me off. Now I know what you are probably thinking, why isn’t Zachary telling the teacher? I asked him that and he is afraid that the little brat will hit him again and hate him. I told him not to sit next to the little brat. Well apparently there is a boy in the class that he wants to be friends with very badly and was told by that kid that if he isn’t friends with the little brat, then he won’t be friends with him either. Ugh. I wish it wasn’t so important to Zachary to be friends with that kid.
So I emailed the teacher and requested that she and I both talk with Zachary and let him know that his teacher is always a safe person for him to go talk to if he is getting hurt at school.
My heart just breaks for Zachary 🙁
I'm so sorry! I would be devastated if another child was hurting or even just being mean to my son. I hope you resolve this situation soon.
Ugh! My heart would totally shatter too if that were my boy! It broke my heart just reading it! My little boy will start kindergarten next fall. I would totally have done what you did, for sure. And if he is still doing it to him, I would seriously go to that school and frighten that boy, but that is just how I am, LOL. I would scare the shit out of him if he did that to my kids, NO WAY!!!! Poor little Zachary!!! Good job, Mama, for doing what you did and HUGS!
Your poor boy. My heart broke for him. I wouldn't let it drop either.
HUGS. I believe you took the proper steps. Hope the teacher certainly takes action. No 1 should put their hands on any one else especially not in the face. If you don't get the answer you like from the teacher I would go to the principle as well. There is never a tolerance for a bully!! Try teaching your child to defend and block if anything he can push off the punching til this gets resolved. Hugs poor little guy
I had to deal with this stuff when my oldest was younger sometime even parents didn't care and I had to call the police (at a older age)
OMG! That's horrible…I don't blame you for being upset…I would be having a shit fit right now! It is NEVER ok for another person to hit another, without asking permission…period. I don't care if it's a five year old or a 28 year old. You may have to end up talking to the parent of the little one!
UGH! We've had issues like that. Our school all too often has said our son being bullied is "kids being kids." We've had to tell our son if someone hits him first to just have at it and defend himself. If you've told the school repeatedly this is going on and your son does finally "snap," just do what I do say "I told you this would happen if you did nothing." Too many parents now don't think their kids are capable of being little brats because they want to be their kids' friends. I'm not here to be my kids' friend. I'm here to try and raise 2 productive members of society. Sorry. I'll stop now. This is one of my hot button issues. Our son has been bullied since he started school because his Asperger's makes him different from the other kids. This is a constant battle for us.
Poor thing! I can't imagine a teacher (or really, any adult) dismissing it so easily, especially with the zero tolerance most schools have now. Good for you for standing up for your son! I hope the situation can be resolved, for your little one's sake!
Oh my gosh, I can't imagine! Kids start so young with bullying, I bet that kid who is hitting is seeing it at home and thinking it's okay. I am so sorry, hopefully Zachary will get more confident about telling the teacher and knowing that it is okay to do so. AND of course hopefully someone will work with the hitter to teach him this is unacceptable game or no game! I can't believe no one stepped in, I would have been FLOORED! Good luck Mama!
You know my daughter experienced something similar at school. She was very shy. To the point where she did not speak at all. It just broke my heart when she would come home and tell me some little bully was picking on hurt. I think it such a great idea to have both the teacher and you explain that it is okay to talk to her. I would have never thought of that.